Many people have posted that women should pray at home so they don't need space in mosque.... well now women are working they cant go home for each prayer they need mosques near their offices or workstations. At the time of prophet s.a.w there was no barrier between the sexes. Women just prayed behind men in the same room... why r we doing this now?
And those of you think women should always pray at home, the prophet s.a.w asked and recommended women to join mosques ( even in the state of mensuration) for special occasions like eid.... so ofcourse they need good space in mosques
It's sickening how many masajid are like that. I remember being 8 months pregnant and entering a masjid in our neighbourhood from a side door and having so much trouble going up 3 flights of stairs to the sisters area dragging my toddler with me, while the men's area was on the main floor through the main doors. My husband manages an Islamic centre where we live and he encourages all to use the main doors and to pray in the main hall. Mothers with children are welcome to pray downstairs where there are toys and they can comfortably nurse. Other sisters come upstairs in the main hall to listen to lectures and pray. One day a friend of mine was praying upstairs and a man came in. Upon seeing her praying in the main hall started telling her "You can't pray here! You have to pray downstairs!"
She finished her prayer and left! But it boiled my blood because these men have no problem mingling with immodest women and standing behind them in coffee shops but lose it on us women who are covered from head to toe trying to reach khushoo in our salah by making it in a place that doesn't smell like mold! Come on!!!!"
Shandalla LR Seirawan comments: Yumna Rashid, you said that so perfectly. I made the same comment shortly after converting about the men and uncovered women. It boiled my blood too. I stopped going to the masjid because I was so angry about it.
Undoubtedly this is my experience where I was on a committee for finding a new mosque- the only female out of 7 of us. The experience in itself was staggering and I felt I could not actually contribute much of anything. There were both gender and cultural barriers. One of the problems I came across was going by myself to meet these guys- and how my husband, who is a very NON macho Arab guy understood the cultural background on gender for some of these gentleman & the implications it could mean. I finally didn't bother going. My previous Real Estate experience was not taken into account, nor was I even requested during the period of writing the contract once we found a space. Currently, the women's area is divided by large coat racks, where even if I could see the imam on the rare event such as Eid when I attend, I couldn't hear him anyway between the women and the children- despite the imam's attempts to ask them to be quiet. How on earth will I raise my daughters in this environment to LOVE islam and the men that represent it.
"After I converted, eager to attend the masjid my adult son attended, I had the same dingy basement experience there. When i asked why women and children couldn't at least see the imam, or be a part of things, I was told, disapprovingly, that the truly pious women pray at home; not at the masjid. As a 60 yr old, with a Masters degree, who raised four children myself, and was a program director/and advocate for victims of domestic violence for over 16 yrs, being treated so badly at masjids I tried to attend was shocking to me. As you expressed, I had never been treated that way at any church I attended....ever, before conversion. I was unmosqued by the Muslims....especially the women of my Muslim community who couldn't understand why I wanted to attend in the first place, telling, "go to taleem, that's what women do". It's been 6 yrs since my conversion to Islam, and have not stepped foot in a masjid since those experiences, but for years now have taken online classes and listen to talks, etc. I marvel at how I remained Muslim after all the hardship I have had, just trying to hold on to my Deen. But then, relying on the internet for community and knowledge had it's pitfalls as well....the horrible things Muslims say to one another in comments, the 'Abu Esa' ordeal made me realize how much hate there is for women, within the Ummah.....now the Happy British Muslims video is causing arguing, accusations, ugly name calling, etc. Social media is no longer a safe place for fellowship either....so, I am read Quran, take classes, listen to talks...avoiding the comments sections, and that's it. Commenters, please don't reply advising me to fight the good fight, I tried that when I was well, to no avail, at 'my masjid' ....now I am too ill, and am confined to my home."
Then, later that day: